Siblings-Day

So, my friend asked me today how my Mum is doing.
(From the health point of view: Ok. But.... she still hasn´t even started to pack for her move. To the apartment she owns for nearly 3 years by now. In a town that would be better for her health... looong story)

Family is a difficult thing somehow.

It´s the third year in a row that my family said they wanna come over for my Birthday. And they skip it.
The first two years there was the danger of flooding at my now-SIL´s place. I can totally understand. This year was a lot of snow and not fun driving. I can understand that.

But... it would´ve been nice to come some time in summer, no? Or maybe one Saturday now?

They just don´t. It´s some 60 km one way. I´m not at the other end of the world, huh?

To top it, Bro asked when I will come over again.

Hello? How lazy can one be?! They know I hate driving. They know I´m rather afraid of it since my accident. They have cars, too. And it would mean something to me!

I feel hurt. Neglected.
Yes, SIL is pregnant. They want to get rid of the house (mouldy, due to floodings) and rebuild it. So, Bro is busy clearing out one apartment in our family-house, so they can live there. He can do so in his working hours, btw.
Next year... they can say, hey, we have a Baby? And then? Not possible to come over with a toddler? Ok, I´m getting mean.

Oh, and he just said, sorry he hasn´t much time for me. A friend is turning 30 in two weeks and there is soooo much to do. Yeah. Good, that did hurt.

Now... my friend has established "Siblings-Day" with her sister. They do it once a year (oh, my, they live some 55 km one way ahead, that´s something different, huh? ;-)... no, they see each other on a regular basis, this is "just" a topping)

And she says I should try the same.

I love my Bro. And I miss him. But,... Hurt Pride.

When he was in trouble some 4 years ago, he was here at least once a week. It was "natural" that I worked longer on other days to be there for him as early as possible.
No, I don´t want an everlasting thank you.
But I feel totally forgotten.

And... more important... I feel as if I´m an intruder to the new family that evolves when I suggest a Siblings-Day.
If you have siblings and they don´t live too far apart... would you suggest such a thing? Have you? Does it work? What about their partners?
Does it also work between Brother and Sister?

I could imagine, because that week I was with him in Cologne when he still studied, we had a great time. Fun as well as serious talk. Friendship. Family.

I don´t think he (and my Mum) hurt me on purpose. But they do hurt me...
And yes. I told them once that they do with this.
And no, they don´t read along here.