Found this at Tom´s and it reminded me...
Before I go on: I respect your religion if it does not hurt others. And if you respect those who don´t share it.
When my Dad´d passed I went to get some things done. Came back, his Sister had been there (she lived some 50 km away and we had no contact).
I found my Dad with a rose in his TO A PRAYER FOLDED hands.
Years ago before that she and her husband visited. Before supper she said, "now, let´s pray" and folded her hands.
My Dad, and I never saw him doing this before or after, jammed his fist on the table and very loudly said, "there is no praying in MY house!"
I was wondering. After all, she grew up there, also.
Mum revealed her MIL was demented. She lived with us (I was 6 months old when she passed).
My parents had their own business (in the house), a baby and a demented family-member.
When it was clear it will be over soon Dad´s Sister took care the last two weeks, then came to our house to take her Mother´s things cause she has a "right" having done "all the caring".
Two weeks versa years!
Once my Dad´s Mother took unnoticed all the money out of the cash register.
My parents were searching like crazy and finally found it in a basket under fresh linen.
So, that Sister grabbed as she liked and missed the silver chandelier cause it was tarnished. Dumb woman that. Greedy. And where was the Christianity?
Did she really care for her Mother or just did the basics, I assume the latter.
That day when I found Dad like that Mum had to send me to Ingo´s home. No idea what I would´ve done if we "collided"!!!
I took the rose away and freed him from that "praying" position.
And saw... he really was my Dad (Bro and I had doubts at times due to our noses no one in the (even extended) family has) - those were exactly my hands, just bigger.
I hope she came back that day and found my Dad how I gave him back his dignity.
My Mum had the coffin covered in mini-sunflowers, which my Dad loved.
Not one single rose.
That was some "Christianity" and some respect along with this #irony.
There is also a The Simpsons-episode where reverend Lovejoy refuses to marry gay couples.
Marge says to him she does not think God cares about if one has a "mumu or a bubu", God cares about that they truly love each other...
I had a gay teamleader at VW.
So. What? No one was "funny" with him.
CSD... an elderly man was celebrating along, then asked me what this is all about.
Upon my answer he angrily went away.
How is it like in your place?
18 comments:
This is soooooo true. Some (not all) people just become so closed minded because of their religion. And in the US, they vote religion too, which is sad because one-we are supposed to have separation of church and state, and two-aren't you supposed to think for yourself and not blindly follow what a religious leader says. And not all religious leaders are closed minded either, but like your photo from Tom, hatred is a sin. Hope you are having a nice Sunday. hugs-Erika
What Erika said!
The two of you: Yes, what Erika said!
Sadly true...
It would be too easy to live a good life...
Don ;'t get me started on LGBTQ+, please. I have NOTHING BUT RESPECT for anyone brave enough to come "out of the closet." When gay marriage was finally made legal in EVERY state, I thought how wonderful. Then tRump came along and started badmouthing gay people. He was playing to the Christian conservatives who started writing letters to every person who they were trying to persuade. One letter got to me that sauid ONLY a man and a woman are known to God to be a true family. I was so mad I tore the letter up immediately.
Thanks for this, dear Iris.
People ought to mind their own business and stay out of others. What difference is it if you're gay or whatever. The person is human and deserves respect.
I would have done the same. My father had no use for the church.
Elizabeth, YES to tearing such dumb piece into nowhere!!!
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Bill, yes, but it it is also about caring, isn´t it. That Sister of my Dad was just greedy and put god in front for her "mission"...
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Jackie, I have no words for her.
A believer in goods, not god...
...you can believe whatever you want, but NEVER force those beliefs on me!!!
Christianity is a personal relationship and we cannot force it on anyone who isn't interested or don't believe. I love sunflowers, so bright and beautiful.
My first experience with people who are gay was in college -- as a theatre major, there were plenty and a number are counted among my dear friends then and now. I don't judge people by what they believe or their sexual status but by who they are -- and if they are kind, caring, good people that's all I need to know. It's all that matter. I get very frustrated, having grown up with church background, with those who call themselves good Christians yet do unkind, selfish, hypocritical things and I have little tolerance for them. I'm glad you did what you did. I know your dad was, too.
What Erika and Tom said
I am pretty much an agnostic.
Tom, I agree... and what she did was forcing it on someone who could not defend himself. I was mad.
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Nancy, yes, and the point is she KNEW my Dad did not want it.
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Jeanie, exactly, as long as they love who cares whom. And Christianity ... I think some who do not believe in some God have more of it.
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Kathy, yes to that, too.
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William, I´m with you...
No religion in my place, but I do have a neighbour who is so religious she goes to church every day and works in the cafe section where people come to sit and talk, I don't know what they chat about I've never been there, but when I talk to this neighbour always Jesus and God are in the conversation. I avoid her when I can, but am polite when I can't, respecting her wishes and lifestyle.
When I visited my father in his coffin at the crematorium I put a bunch of carnations in his arms, his favourite flowers. I don't remember what I took for my mother.
Gay people are accepted here, no one makes a fuss, well no one that I know anyway.
River, those people are exhausting, never realizing when others do not respond to their Jesus/God-related remarks. Think she hopes to get you there desperately... I would run ;-)
Though, yes, she at least lives it helping others... unlike that Aunt of mine.
Talked to Ingo about it - he was astonished the Cousin he identified only from me talking about him is her Son!
A nice thing you did to your Father.
I think (!!!!) I was to throw a rose into my Mum´s grave. As I am the older one I had to go first but since I nearly broke down at Dad´s funeral my doc gave me some meds and I don´t clearly remember. Be that good or bad...
Oh. Can gay people get married in Australia now? In our certificate it says "man and woman"... that was 2013.
Yes they can, but I don't know about what is on the certificates.
That is progress, yipeee!
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